Even giving Lucas the benefit of the doubt (her gig as a senator requires a lot of travel, she's probably not home a lot) that type of thing is sure to fuck you up in a permanent way. Han manifests affection as aggression; Luke is too uncomfortable with emotions in general to control them like an adult; Lando is a sociopath. The only one who's arguably well-adjusted is Chewbacca and who even knows what he's actually saying.
This is a conversation I am having at 4:30 am.
Sometimes insomnia wins.